It’s important to preserve our sense of worth. Occasionally, think about your life now. Is it going the way you wish? What have you done (today) that makes you feel proud (a song!)? Be positive and mull over these things. They can be simple. Perhaps they involve work or home, interests or family and friends. Make a mental note of the good things. Quietly allow yourself to be satisfied, pleased.
Simple achievement-Each year this fuschia survives the winter (7 degrees centigrade) in our garden.
We don’t have to tell others unless we feel they are happy to share our thoughts.
By being positive about our achievements, however simple, we give our lives a meaning. This way we feel a desire to continue, maybe even with more goals.
We love our children but maybe we can miss out on going out. Try to find pubs and bars where there are facilities for children and adults to be together happily. UK National Trust attractions can include child-friendly cafes and outdoor eating and drinking areas. Find other places with high chairs along with necessary good nappy changing and toilet facilities. Some museums have excellent child-friendly facilities as well as displays involving children to keep them interested.
Sundown at a beachside bar
Keep the contact details of all these various entertainment areas you have searched out so you can invite friends to join you with ease.
I like to spend time gardening. I prefer to work where it is shady. I wait for the sun to move. Perhaps this is earlier or later, usually early. Just in case I have to go in a sunny spot, I cover up wearing a hat, loose t-shirt and gardening gloves. Every day I wear sunblock on my face.
BUT-twice I have discovered a small , slightly itchy pink patch on my skin. Once on my jaw and another time on my shoulder. The patch has been slow to enlarge. Don’t be deceived. They can grow deep. My skin doctor is skillful and after a biopsy he removes the growth. The analysis shows it’s malignant, not benign. The removal is pain-free and leaves no scar.
If you live on an island, the sea may never be far away. No matter, give yourself a break and find the sea. Feel the soothing breeze or a battering gale. Hear the rhythmical lap or destructive crashing waves. Smell the sharp salt or the fusty ripe seaweed. Hear the screeching seagulls or the grunting cormorants. Feel the warm rays or the wet mist. Walk unsteadily on the smooth pebbles or be enveloped by endless fine sand.
Do you find you complete something quickly when others are involved? Does that bit of painting or tidying the garden occur before guests arrive? Do you polish your computer skills on a new update before showing a friend who needs a demonstration? At work, we carry on at a steady pace until we are expected to show our expertise. Then there is a gallop to impress.
We chug along until a demand requires us to change into a faster gear. No pressure, no worries. However, we work better when there is a challenge. We need something to spur us on.
This is a good safety mechanism. It can stop burnout or stress. It’s better to be generally conscientious but add the extra effort only when the time requires.
Sometimes cooking with others is more speedy and less work. Different tastes can be included without one type of food predominating.
Perhaps you eat almost any cuisine and prefer to try new dishes from recipes online. Others may be more traditional. I like to make a spicy cauliflower recipe with added plain steamed pak choi and roasted sweet potato chips. Preparation is simple and the dishes are colourful and nutritious. Someone else likes to make a traditional meat casserole using favourite recipe books.
So this way we both assemble and cook the dishes, serving them together.
The vegetables can be served alone as can the casserole, making two meals instead of one. So one meal can be frozen for another day. Time problems? Cooking can be shortened with the use of a microwave or pressure cooker for the casserole. Good food without one person doing all the work!